Advice comes from everywhere, from the papers, from friends and acquaintances, from social media and blogs. Below, for example, are listed the eight things that you should be doing to increase the amount of “flow” in your life.
1) Sleep more
2) Eat real food, mostly plants
3) Move often
4) Drink clean water
5) Make love
6) Be grateful
8) Get outside
I think that they’re all great advice for anyone, but will being given this advice make a difference?
Now, imagine you’re Theresa May, the day after the 2017 election result. Ok, I understand this might not be your first choice of subject but bear with me. As I said, imagine you’re Theresa May, the day after the 2017 election result.
It would be an understatement that things aren’t great for you and you really need to get 'into flow' to work out how you’re going to negotiate with those pesky Unionists. And you’re wondering where on earth did it all go wrong and WTF – how did JC (Jeremy Corbyn) manage to achieve half of what he did?
So, you pick up the phone to your “Flow Advisor” and get this advice.
“Theresa," he says," I advise you to get a good night’s sleep. Make sure you have some real food, perhaps nettle soup for supper and a cup of herbal tea. Do a few yoga stretches to relax then drink a glass of purified water before making love to your husband.
"Be really grateful. After all, JC could have won the election.
"Oh, and by the way – I suggest you unplug a bit. Tomorrow, you’ve got to fly to Brussels to negotiate with Donald Tusk. And, as you know, Donald Trump doesn’t want to come over here anymore – in case he’s seen as more unpopular than you.
"I also advise that you get outside. That’s outside of Number 10 – probably permanently, unless you’re visiting a future prime minister to give them some electioneering advice.”
The question I am pondering is – does receiving advice actually work?
My take on it - I think, like all of us - is that Theresa will only hear the advice that is aligned with her character and frame of mind in the moment.
If she’s a bit of an 'Iron Lady', she'll be taking things all in her stride. In which case she'll be unlikely to listen to any advice. On the other hand, if she really is falling apart, she'll be unlikely to hear or believe any of the positive advice given to her by anyone.
I think that the best any "Flow Advisor" can do in this situation is just help her to see the normality of her experience under the circumstances, whatever that happens to be, then help her get on with the job in hand. Perhaps by making a cup of tea.
That's what our Insight Team is here to do. We won't advise you or console you. What we do is help you gain a perspective where you can see the wood from the trees and to resolve the issues that are relevant to your set of circumstances in that moment. Oh, and we'll make you a cup of tea as well.